Let me guess. You've tried:

- Journaling (but replaying the same stories doesn't actually help)

- Venting to friends (feels good for 10 minutes, then you crash)

- Positive affirmations (that feel fake as hell when you're actually furious)

- Meditation (but your angry thoughts keep interrupting)

- Therapy (helpful, but you're still carrying the charge in your body)

What if I told you there's a method where you get to say every single thing you've been holding back—every cuss word, every "inappropriate" thought—while simultaneously calming your nervous system?

That's Bitch Tap®. And it's exactly what it sounds like.

How I Created Bitch Tap®

I didn't set out to create a technique with "bitch" in the name. But after more than two decades of working with seriously ill clients—people dealing with chronic pain, autoimmune diseases, and emotional trauma—I noticed something.

Traditional EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is incredibly powerful. But for some clients, the standard setup phrases felt... fake.

You know the ones:

"Even though I feel this anger, I deeply and completely love and accept myself."

For some people, that works beautifully. But for others? When they're legitimately furious, terrified, or heartbroken, being asked to say they "deeply love and accept themselves" feels like more emotional bypassing.

They need to say the raw, unfiltered truth first.

So I evolved a method from its precursor, "The Massey Emotional Trigger Point Technique," and called it what it is: Bitch Tap®.

How Bitch Tap® Works

Here's the beautiful simplicity of it:

There's no setup phrase. No reminder phrase. No worries about doing it "right."

All you have to do is:

1. Start tapping on specific acupressure points (the same meridian points used in EFT)

2. Start bitching—and almost everyone knows how to do that.

You tap while you say everything you always wanted to say to that person, that situation, that memory. You give them a damn good "reading." You say it in the most colorful way possible.

And you keep tapping and bitching until that memory collapses completely with no remaining emotional intensity.

Why Cussing Is Required (Yes, Really)

I'm not just being edgy here. There's actual science behind why swearing makes this work better.

Research led by psychologist Dr. Richard Stephens shows that cussing can actually reduce pain and make you feel better. That's because swearing is closely linked to an emotionally aroused state and intense feelings.

Studies suggest the brain processes cuss words in the same regions as emotion and instinct—not in the language centers. Think of cussing as a motor activity with an emotional component.

That's why you remember cuss words about four times better than other words. (Ever notice how the first words people learn in a new language are the cuss words? There's a reason.)

When you combine that emotional intensity with tapping on meridian points, you get a sharper, more focused release. You're not just talking about the anger—you're discharging it from your nervous system.

Who Bitch Tap® Is For

This method is perfect for people who:

- Have what I call a "throat chakra imbalance"—you literally can't find the words

- Feel powerless; the number 1 reason to get your power back

- Have a hard time speaking up in the moment

- Replay "coulda, woulda, shoulda" scenarios over and over

- Were taught to be "nice" at all costs

- To uncover unexpressed angers

-Resentments, Grudges, Deep Regrets

-Humiliations, Embarrassments, Frustrations

-Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda times when you should have spoken up and couldn't or wouldn't

-Times you felt victimized, Times you were helpless

Some people, as they say, couldn't say shit if they had a mouthful, uncomfortable with confrontation. If that's you, Bitch Tap® will take practice. That throat tension (chakra blockage) is a symptom of years of swallowing your truth.

But here's the thing: even if you start off whispering, you're forming the words internally. You're letting them rise up, pass through your throat, and past your lips.

With practice, you get stronger. You get entitled to your feelings. And pretty soon, you're throwing F-bombs and hitting those negative specific events clean out of the ballpark.

What Makes It Different from Regular EFT

Traditional EFT is structured and gentle. Bitch Tap® is raw and unapologetic.

With Bitch Tap®:

- You don't need setup and reminder phrases, just speak your mind and tap the basic short form points

- You don't have to be polite or "conscientious" about it, you express your raw emotion without the sugar coating

- You're not trying to forgive anyone yet—first things first: release your anger and get your power back

- The goal is to finally have your say, your way then end with forgiveness

And the best part? You're doing this in the privacy of your own home. You're not dumping on your closest friends and other people. You're not re-traumatizing yourself by venting the same story for the 50th time.

You're bitching productively, with a positive goal in mind: complete internal resolution and emotional re-balance.

The Breakthroughs Are Incredibly Satisfying

When clients finally let themselves use Bitch Tap®, the results are always surprising and deeply gratifying.

I've seen people who've been holding onto a conversation for years finally tell that person off—out loud, in my office, with every F-bomb they'd been saving.

By the end, they're not shaking anymore. They can breathe. The memory doesn't own them anymore.

You finally get your way and have true and lasting resolution, improving your health, physically and emotionally.

Ready to Try It?

If you're thinking, "This sounds too good to be true," I get it. But here's what I know after years of clinical practice:

Your anger isn't the problem. Stuffing it down is.

And if traditional methods haven't worked for you—if you're still carrying rage, resentment, or those missed moments—maybe it's time to try something that lets you be honest.

Want to see Bitch Tap® in action?

Start with my free "What is Energy Psychology?" video to understand the foundation, then listen to my Bitch Tap® "podcast" for the story of how this approach evolved from classical EFT and why it's so powerful.

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