You've had a terrible day.

Someone at work threw you under the bus. Your partner said something thoughtless. Your kid had a meltdown in the grocery store and you wanted to disappear.

So you do what you've always done: you call your friend and vent.

For the next 20 minutes, you unload. Every detail. Every injustice. Every reason you're justified in being pissed off.

And at first? It feels amazing. You feel heard. Validated. Seen.

But then—maybe an hour later, maybe the next day—you feel worse.

The anger is still there. Maybe even stronger. And now you feel guilty for dumping on your friend. Again.

What the hell happened?

The Venting Paradox

Venting can be a release. But here's the problem:

If you vent over and over about the same issue with no actual shift, you're not processing the emotion—you're just marinating in it.

Your brain and body are replaying the anger, but nothing is actually discharging it from your nervous system.

That's why you can tell the same story 20 times and still feel like it just happened yesterday.

What's Actually Happening When You Vent

When you vent to a friend, you're activating the emotional memory. You're re-experiencing the anger, the frustration, the hurt.

But without a mechanism to actually release that charge from your body, you're just looping.

Think of it like this: venting is like opening a pressure valve for a few seconds, then slamming it shut again. You get a momentary release, but the pressure is still building.

And here's the kicker: your friend is now carrying some of that emotional charge too. You've essentially taken them "down with the ship energetically," as I like to say.

It's good manners to be sensitive about how much you unload on other people.

Venting vs. Processing

So what's the difference?

Venting is talking about the problem without resolving it.

Processing is moving the emotion through your body and out.

Venting keeps you stuck in the story.

Processing lets you release the charge so you can actually move forward.

Enter: Bitching WITH a Method

My late mother-in-law, Georgesther, used to tell me: "Honey, if you don't have anything nice to say about someone, tell me everything!"

She loved a little drama. It was entertaining, distracting even.

But someone who keeps bitching about the same old issues over and over again? That person is stuck in the past.

That's where Bitch Tap® comes in.

It's the difference between bitching to someone and bitching with a method.

How Bitch Tap® Is Different

When you use Bitch Tap®, you're not just talking. You're tapping on specific acupressure points while you bitch.

Here's why that matters:

1. You're working directly with your nervous system

The tapping signals to your body: "We're safe. We can process this and let it go."

Your parasympathetic nervous system (the "rest and digest" system) gets activated, which counteracts the fight-or-flight response that anger triggers.

2. You're saying the truth out loud

You're not censoring yourself. You're saying every cuss word, every petty thought, every "inappropriate" thing you've been holding back.

That honesty—combined with the tapping—creates a profound release.

3. You're not dumping on anyone else

You're doing this in the privacy of your own space. You're not burdening your friend. You're not re-traumatizing yourself by replaying the story for someone else.

You're bitching productively, with a positive goal in mind: to finally let it go.

What Happens After You Tap

Clients always ask me: "Will I still be angry after I tap?"

No.

What I know for sure is this: the charge will be gone. The situation may have been unfortunate but it doesn't hurt you anymore.

You might still think, "Yeah, that situation sucked." But your body won't be activated by it anymore. You won't be shaking, clenching your jaw, or replaying it obsessively.

You'll be able to think clearly about what you want to do next—set a boundary, have a conversation, or just move on.

But you'll do it from a place of clarity, not reactivity.

Stop Looping. Start Releasing

If you've been venting about the same issues for weeks, months, or years, it's time to try something different.

You don't need another listening ear. You need a tool that works with your body.

Ready to learn how?

Start with my free "What is Energy Psychology?" video to understand the foundation, then listen to my Bitch Tap® "podcast" for the story of how this approach evolved from classical EFT and why it's so powerful.

Join my email list and I'll send you guided tutorials so you can start speaking your truth—out loud, unapologetically, powerfully.

Stop spinning. Start releasing.

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